They expressed shock at the calls for that had been placed on their relationships and the impact that having a child had had on them as a pair. Men often excluded themselves from the antenatal breastfeeding sessions because they did not feel that breastfeeding was relevant to them. Their partners have been normally of the identical opinion and this was sometimes backed up by midwives who advised them they did not have to attend when breastfeeding was being discussed. In discussing what else might have been helpful to them, eight mother and father raised the concept of a new DVD that could be particularly targeted at them.